tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2432734053115127369.post5585681368486280078..comments2023-07-05T03:28:27.772-07:00Comments on Shalom, Dena: What If We NEED To Be Needy ...?Denahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05100904350829701234noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2432734053115127369.post-33025202264518289272013-01-19T18:01:34.721-08:002013-01-19T18:01:34.721-08:00Dena, I was not as outwardly social as you, I was ...Dena, I was not as outwardly social as you, I was more inwardly social with the whole world that lived in my head. Same comment type from my teachers!!! <br /><br />I raised my kids to be free-spirited. My 5th born is the most artistic/free-spirited of the group. The day my oldest daughter and I had to take him to school was very traumatic for her and I. As we walked him to the door our steps got slower and slower. We looked at each other in horror, because we hadn't taught him to stay in the 12x12 inch square they have to stand in or to stand in straight lines. And we KNEW this child was about to be crushed. <br /><br />My other children learned to play within the system. To be there in body and to be running around Mars in their mind. This one? He was too "out there," too talkative, too loving, too artistic, too musical, too MICHAEL. If I could have taken him and run, I would have. But I had no other options, so in we went. <br /><br />His shiny spirit was utterly dulled by 3rd grade. School was torture for him (and my oldest daughter, by the way). He didn't finish. He did find music in middle school and that helped a bit, but was too little, too late. <br /><br />I totally get what you are saying. I tried so hard to be touchy feely with all my kids, even my boys, but this one got particularly adept at push-awayness. He blames me for much. I pray he finds his way to forgiveness and he is in the process of recovering his muchness. He hasn't, however, been able to manage a 9-5 job...another manifestation of this out there personality, I believe. Life is such a challenge for the muchness-folk. <br /><br />The rest of us? We learn to hide our muchness to stop getting yelled at/put down. And we suffer for it. <br /><br />Thanks for your muchness, Dena!!!!!Debra Mastershttp://mysticbluerosegarden.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2432734053115127369.post-80699053606868064572013-01-19T16:54:05.948-08:002013-01-19T16:54:05.948-08:00I often think about this with the kids at my schoo...I often think about this with the kids at my school that are like that. It is a tough balance encouraging them to be themselves and enjoy who they are and keeping them off the tables or break dancing in the aisles. <br /><br />I admit to being frustrated by these kids when their personalities conflict with my need to get them in and out of the cafeteria in a safe manner in 20 minutes.<br /><br />I can only hope that compassion (which I pray for lots and lots) comes first before my need to control.Darcyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16034095851213736666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2432734053115127369.post-33490446166147024362013-01-19T16:25:37.648-08:002013-01-19T16:25:37.648-08:00I think you hit it out-o-the-park today! thanks.I think you hit it out-o-the-park today! thanks.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15999054610984180943noreply@blogger.com