This is one of those:
"Do you sincerely wish to help others to better themselves? Avoid
criticizing them or moralizing, and start by bettering yourself.
Merely by your example you can show them they are making a
mistake or behaving badly. Yes, by your example. Because, when
you work on yourself, you are working on others: they notice
qualities in you that are lacking in them, and that makes them
progress, as they understand the advantages for them in doing as
you do. Those who concern themselves with the weaknesses and
vices of others become dull and disagreeable, as if the faults
they talk about finally rub off on them; it's awful, you feel
sorry for them.
So start by making changes for the better in yourself, and let
other people be. Accept them as they are, be patient, work
relentlessly, day and night, to show them just what can be
achieved through sincere endeavour. If they don't yet know, they
won't learn it from your words, but they will from your example."
Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov
Breathing this one in deeeeeeeeply ... SO simple, SO liberating ... releasing my obscene, absurd notion that I was put here to *fix* anyone ... I am here to learn who I am, which can then be contagious for others to learn who they are ...!